It’s after the I do.
3 years after.
And while these 3 years, time speaking, are still a small percentage of the life I’ve lived, they are full of memories, lessons, experiences + most of all, love.
After the I do.
I have learned that marriage really is hard. People don’t just say it to scare you away from a great thing.
I have learned that marriage is a great thing. It is also a great amount of work.
I have learned what I point out negatively in you I see most prominently in me: I’m too prideful to admit it.
I have learned more about myself and my pride.
I am learning how to replace it with humility.
I have learned that being quick to forgive is quite possibly one of the best characteristics of a beautiful marriage.
I have learned that communication and speaking in love, is another.
I have learned that joy is different than happiness and can be found in the most difficult times.
I have seen how God can mend brokenness time and again.
I have seen how easily we fall prey to the patterns that drive us apart.
I have experienced that He is the only one who brings us back together.
I have experienced trying to accomplish it on my own, only to bring more hurt.
I never knew that someone could love me so much.
I never knew that I could love someone so much.
After the I do.
I am learning that we really are a team.
I am learning what our vows really mean.
Andy, 3 years ago today, I said I do.
Thankfully, you said it too.
You said it, knowing that I was stubborn, prideful, imperfect and so much more.
You deserve the best and that is what I want to give you.
Today, I look back on 3 years of being your wife.
I love you, and I will put God only before my love for you. I promise to love you more each day than I did the day before. I will laugh with you in times of joy and cry with you in times of trial. I will always be open and honest with you. I promise to respect and trust you unconditionally. I promise to support you as you seek to be the man God has called you to be and encourage your leading as we follow God’s plan for our lives. I can’t wait to see what God has planned for our life as a team, seeking God first and foremost together.
Through all of the uncertainties of life, I promise to be faithful to you and love you, so that together we may grow in the likeness of Christ and that our home may bring glory to Him.
Andy, this is my covenant, before God, our family and our friends, of my love and commitment to you.